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Positive actions

A conjecture:

No matter the situation, there are three actions which are always positive:

  • Smiling
  • Letting go
  • Meditating
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Electronic Junk

I feel like Facebook and the internet giants at large are sucking me into a commercialised version of myself,

I see a reflection of myself but one distorted by some apathetic social averaging algorithm.

If this so called artificial intelligence is to enlighten the masses, how will it do so if it’s being fed by the same masses,

Will it now take considerably more momentum to break free from this social gravity than it would have once upon a time?

If AI can tell us what we want next, are humans anything more than the limbs of a distributed consciousness?

In the beginning, this network delivered the pinnacle of research across the globe. And now it delivers mostly junk.

How to Listen Well

TL;DR – see summary below.

I shall not go into the benefits of listening well, there are many, and much of it is agreed upon.

Innate Listening

Listening is an innate ability. Forcing it does not improve one’s skills at it.

Listening is a state of being. Good listening comes from quieting of one’s mind, and compassion for the person being listened too.

Take this example: Someone very close to you is on their deathbed, and is trying to say something to you. I bet you’re listening very well in that circumstance. The point is that you already have the ability, and if you want to use it, it comes naturally, and it comes in its best and only true form.

How to Improve Our Listening Ability

So, what if we want to make ourselves better listeners?

The trick is to set up ourselves so that this innate ability comes to the fore. To do that we need to understand the elements that lead to good listening.

The thing that leads to good listening is a quieting of ones own mind. This happens through one’s own actions. The actions should be good, in that they bring you peace. E.g. doing chores; getting your own life in order; sorting out your business. All these will lead to you becoming a better listener. On the flip side, imagine you have just been diagnosed with cancer, and were otherwise healthy and very young. You are not at peace now. There is a good chance that, for a while, you cannot listen to anything. Why? Because your mind is fully occupied with your own problems.

What About Active Listening and Other Advice?

I hate to break it to you but that much of the advice given about listening is fundamentally flawed. Some examples of advice you might hear are: Repeat what you have heard; Make suggestions; Ask good questions.

The problem with this advice is there is absolutely no rule that works 100% of the time and attempting to improve these abilities does precisely the wrong thing – it moves focus from your listening to you trying to listen. DO NOT FOLLOW THIS COMMON AND POOR ADVICE, JUST LISTEN.

The advice often may work in the sense that you may appear to be a good listener, but it produces only the illusion that one is a good listener, and that illusion is a poor, particularly when the person observing you is a great listener.

Listening to People is a Special Case of Observing Anything

The advice above can be applied to listening, seeing, feeling, smelling and/or tasting anything.

TL;DR / Summary

  1. Listening is innate
  2. Listening is not an active skill. Practicing it as such diminishes your ability to truly listen.
  3. Listening is improved through improving your own peace of mind
  4. One’s peace of mind is improved by doing good things. E.g. completing chores, being nice to people, doing things that reduce your regrets / guilt, etc.
  5. DO NOT follow much of the incorrect advice given around active listening and traits of a good listener.
  6. Listening is a special case of all using any sense, and the above advice applies similarly

The Startup Fashion Show

The problem with the massive buzz around tech startups is that most of what we see, at for example conferences or on the internet, is all just a show.

It is great that there is interest and support of ambitious entrepreneurs, but a good idea and a lively founder does not make a successful startup. I cannot help but feel the publicised startup world is but a fashion show of image obsessed wannabes and money hungry pimps fuelling the madness.

The heart of what makes a good startup is known by some, but it’s not glamorous, and it’s not new, and so it doesn’t sell headlines. But, there are those that seem to get to the truth of the matter. Gary Vaynerchuck being a case in point.

The fact is, a successful startup relies more upon substance than it does on its image, even if only the latter will sell headlines.

The Deer

The mind is like a deer staring into the headlights of your awareness.

The deer is aware of something looking at it but also becomes fixated with the looker. It is no longer free to be a deer, but rather becomes self obsessed and paralysed. Now, it is all but useless.